I have always been a ride or die sort of friend. I could go without seeing you for months, even years, and if you call me up on a random Tuesday afternoon in May and you need me, I will be there. Some friendships we make only last for a season, others last for a lifetime.
Making solid friendships in your twenties can be both exciting and extremely challenging, but the friends that I have made in my twenties I hope will last for a lifetime. Why are friendships so challenging? Well for one, everyone is working all the time. Most of the time I am wanting to curl up on my couch with my cat and a glass of wine way before I want to go out and socialize. The closest friends I made were girls I lived with or spent a good amount of time in small group with. It always took investment though. Friendship is an investment. It doesn't just magically happen. The most difficult thing for me though was that everyone seemed to move. No one every stayed for too long in my college town. Wilmington, just very matter of fact, is a difficult place to find a job in.
Despite the difficulty, you are also in a beautiful place for friendships to blossom. Many people are in new environments and new cities, whether for college or jobs. Everyone is in the same uncomfortable situation looking for people with similarities and connections to bond over. In this vulnerable state, we often step outside of our comfort zone to make new friends.
As a follower of Christ though I think we are all called to create friendships with a few people that we truly walk through life with during the good and bad times.
I love this story in Exodus about how when Moses is in war leading the Israelites in war against the Amalekites, as long as his hands were raised the Israelite army was going to win the war. His friends, Aaron and Hur go to the top of the hill with Moses to help him keep his hands lifted even as he grew tired.
The Amalekites came and attacked the Israelites at Rephidim. Moses said to Joshua, “Choose some of our men and go out to fight the Amalekites. Tomorrow I will stand on top of the hill with the staff of God in my hands.” So Joshua fought the Amalekites as Moses had ordered, and Moses, Aaron and Hur went to the top of the hill. As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held his hands up—one on one side, one on the other—so that his hands remained steady till sunset. So Joshua overcame the Amalekitearmy with the sword.
Be a friend like Aaron and Hur. Be a friend who stands beside a friend through the battles of life to hold up each others hands when one is too weak to go on their own. I know that your twenties are a very difficult time for creating deep friendships but if you dig in and invest in these friendships I believe that they will be the ones that last for a lifetime. Let's lift each other up, and encourage each other to be strong and fierce women of God.